Create a Life You Don’t Want to Escape From

If This Is You

You’ve tried “try harder.” It works… until stress hits and the mind starts renegotiating.

This is a fit if:

1. You’re tired of the private bargaining that happens when you’re alone

2. You’ve cycled approaches — therapy, AA, rehab, church, biohacks, willpower — and the undertow still pulls

3. You want privacy, speed, and a plan that produces real change without public sharing

4. You’re ready to rebuild your life from the inside out — not just remove a substance

You don’t have a character flaw.

You have a self-sabotage loop — usually fed by disconnection, overload, and meaning collapse.

Fix the root, and the behavior stops running the show.

Sobriety isn’t forced… it’s built.
Not by gritting your teeth.

By building a life you actually want to be present for.

What This Is (and What It Isn’t)

This is not a pep talk.
It’s not “content.”
It’s not vague support.

It’s a defined 30-day operating system built around one principle:

A divided life produces divided action.
When attention is fractured, meaning thins out. When meaning thins out, escape starts to look reasonable.

Our work is to restore wholeness — not perfection, not personality optimization — but a life that feels coherent enough that self-betrayal stops being the default.

The 7 Non-Negotiables

My Sober Creed

Most recovery models emphasize insight and willpower — and then act surprised when stress hits and the mind starts renegotiating.

This isn’t a list of suggestions. It’s a stabilization and momentum protocol.

These seven tenets target the real leverage points: environment, accountability, trade-offs, energy, momentum, Sacred contact, and investment.

Think of them like load-bearing beams. You can paint the walls, but if the beams are weak, the house still collapses under stress.

If these don’t resonate, that’s not “resistance.” It’s information. We’re probably not a fit.

1) Proximity is destiny.

You become what you repeatedly live among.

Your environment is either training you or trapping you.

Simple: Hang around a barbershop long enough — you’ll get a haircut.

What we do: We redesign your proximity: people, places, cues, rhythms. We move you closer to integrity, stillness, and sanity — and away from what quietly trains you to self-destruct.

2) Accountability is not optional.

Without it, your brain renegotiates in secret.

Simple: You can’t be the judge and the defendant. You’ll cut yourself a deal.

What we do: We build external structure that holds when your internal weather changes. Clear standards. Clear check-ins. No loopholes.

3) No solutions — only trade-offs.

Sobriety has a cost. So does addiction. Choose your invoice.

Simple: You either pay now, or you pay later… with interest.

What we do: We name the trade-offs without romance or denial, and we stop the quiet bargaining that always precedes relapse.

4) Energy is the foundation.

If your body is collapsing, your standards will collapse with it.

Simple: Exhaustion makes “tired choices” feel wise.

What we do: We stabilize sleep, food, movement, and nervous-system regulation so your mind can think clean and your will can function.

5) Momentum is sacred.

Early momentum is fragile. We protect it like a newborn.

Simple: A boulder is hardest to move at the start. Once rolling, it stays rolling.

What we do: We convert insight into daily execution immediately — small wins that compound into identity change.

6) Daily contact with the Sacred is non-negotiable.

Disconnection is gasoline on addiction.

By “the Sacred,” I don’t mean a mood, a vibe, or a brand word. I mean the dimension of life that calls for reverence: truth, conscience, beauty, love, service, and reality as it is.

Some people call that God. The word can be loaded — but the point is not ideology. It’s relationship.

Simple: Addiction grows in the dark. Connection turns the lights on.

What we do: A daily practice of reconnection — embodied, real, and repeatable — so you don’t collapse into cynicism, secrecy, and self-betrayal.

7) Make the investment.

Sobriety is the multiplier.

Simple: Fix the foundation and everything built on it gets stronger.

What we do: We treat this like the highest-ROI move you can make — because it upgrades every domain: health, wealth, leadership, relationships, longevity.

A Blunt Note on “Self-Help”

Self-help can improve mindset.
It rarely changes behavior by itself.

This work is standards + structure + accountability + momentum — the things most people avoid because they require follow-through.

I care about outcomes. Not drama. Not excuses. Not “identity performance.”

If you want coddling, I’m not your guy.
If you want a real reset and you can stand behind these principles, you’ll get a blueprint that actually holds.

Why Coaching Beats “Try Harder”

No Magic Fix. Just Cleaner Trade-Offs.

There are no pure “solutions” in sobriety — only trade-offs.
And the mind loves to pretend it can keep the same comforts and still get a different life.

You already know what sobriety costs:
the ritual, the social lubricant, the escape hatch, the late-night drift.

My job is to help you name those trade-offs clearly — and hold the line when your old story tries to renegotiate.

You’re not paying for polite, expensive small talk.

You’re paying for standards, clarity, and design that prevents relapse — not hope that you “handle it better next time.

Coaching vs. Therapy vs. Rehab

Therapy can be powerful for understanding your past.
Rehab can be essential when health or safety is on the line.

This is neither.

This is a present-and-future-focused, one-on-one immersion designed to:

1. Turn insight into concrete action

2. Tighten your environment so relapse isn’t “bad luck,” it’s prevented by design

3. Enforce standards your addiction can’t talk its way out of

If therapy explains why you’re hurting, and rehab drags you out of the fire, this work is where you stop striking the match.

Your 30-Day Operating System

This is a decisive reset — customized to your life, built on a clear spine.

Private Calls

2x/week — 50 minutes

Deep-focus sessions where we:

1. diagnose what’s actually driving the loop

2. set clear commitments

3. adjust in real time

Every call ends with specific actions — not “good talk.”

Between-Call Structure

You’ll have:

1. a simple daily protocol (10–30 minutes, not a lifestyle overhaul fantasy)

2. accountability check-ins

3. decision rules for high-risk moments (so you’re not improvising at midnight)

Environment Redesign

We’ll identify:

1. the cues that start the slide

2. the situations that make relapse feel “reasonable”

3. and the changes that remove friction from sober choices

Meaning + Shadow Work

We’ll work directly with:

1. the part of you that sabotages

2. the part of you that lies to you

3. and the part of you that still wants to live

Not with shame. With precision.

Sacred Contact (Daily)

We’ll build a practice of contact that is:

1. embodied (not just “thinking about spiritual ideas”)

2. relational (not “using God as a tool”)

3. consistent (not dependent on mood)

Plant Medicine (Careful + Responsible)

If plant medicine is part of your path, we speak about it with seriousness and safety — not hype.

This is not medical advice, not a promise, and not a replacement for qualified medical or mental health care. Any exploration must be legal where you are and supported by appropriate professional guidance.

Next Step

If you’re ready for a private reset with standards — not slogans — apply below.

Why This Is Unconventional

and why it works

Most approaches miss in predictable ways:

1) The “disease-only” approach
Many programs reduce addiction to a single frame and hand you a one-size-fits-all solution. Helpful for some. Incomplete for many.

2) The “it’s just a habit” approach
Many high performers treat addiction like a bad routine — and never allocate the time, structure, and meaning-repair it actually requires.

3) The missing triangle
Almost nobody combines deep inner work, real-world accountability, and a living connection to what is most real — inside a private, high-stakes container.

You get all three:

1. Shadow + meaning repair (what’s driving the loop)

2. Structure + accountability (what holds when mood flips)

3. Sacred contact (what restores wholeness, not just compliance)

This isn’t theory. It’s design.

We Don’t Worship Sobriety Dates

I don’t hang this work on your “sobriety date.”

Fear of losing a date rarely prevents relapse. And tying your self-worth to a number can make a slip catastrophic instead of instructive.

There are better measures of progress.

I love AA. I’ve watched it save lives.
I’ve also watched “relapse culture” scare good people away:

Back to day one. Back to the kiddie table.
Shame piled on shame — and shame is gasoline.

Here, we focus on the whole arc of recovery:

Your attempts. Your setbacks. Your learning. Your willingness to return to what’s real.

A flawless record can make people forget how much luck, timing, and environment matter. We don’t.

You’re measured by honesty, engagement, and follow-through — not by chip collection.

What We Train

Honest Trade-Offs

No fantasy solutions.

We get brutally clear on what you’re willing to give up — and what you refuse to sacrifice.

Because sobriety isn’t “free.” Neither is addiction.
You pick the invoice.

Deliberate Stillness

Stillness isn’t a spa day. It’s a performance tool.

You’ll use meditation and quiet to regulate your nervous system, strengthen attention, and clean up decision-making — instead of white-knuckling urges.

Systems That Remember for You

Insight is fragile. Willpower is weather.

We build structures that keep your commitments alive when your brain gets tired — so you don’t drift back into:

“How did I end up here again?”

Get the Blueprint You Need

Or Keep Spinning

If you’re thinking: “What does this guy know that I don’t?”
Honest answer: nothing you couldn’t learn the hard way.

You can absolutely do this the hard way.

Here’s what that usually looks like:

You do it your way.
You repeat the same pattern in new clothes.
You miss the next big opportunity.
You damage a relationship you can’t easily repair.
You lose trust.
You lose time.
You keep telling yourself it’ll “sort itself out.”
You call the darkness “just a phase.”

And if you wake up one day realizing you’ve been running in place while everything that matters erodes — you already understand why this exists.

I don’t talk theory because I’ve lived the cost.

I’ve lost everything because of drinking.
I’ve rebuilt beyond my expectations because of sobriety.
I’ve launched (and crashed) multiple ventures — 7 wins out of 12 attempts.
I stayed sober through my mother’s death.
I woke up in an ICU after a relapse that could’ve ended much worse.
I became a good son to my father — and he finally said, “I’m proud of you.”

That last line means everything. It doesn’t get bigger than that.

That’s what’s waiting for you.

The blueprint I share comes from scars, not slogans — and from being coached at a high level for 15+ years. I understand the mind of the obsessive builder… and the emotional landmines that come with trying to outwork your pain.

If you’re done gambling with this, we build the blueprint together.

Why You Can Take Me Seriously

My Promise

No guru pedestal.
No false guarantees.
No coddling.

Just a new experience that actually shifts your world — ruthless accountability, tailored structure, and a genuine commitment to help you stop lighting yourself on fire.

How to Get Started

I don’t just help you stop drinking. I help you rebuild from the inside out — until sobriety becomes your new default.

Disclaimer (Read This)

I am not a doctor, therapist, or treatment center. Nothing here is medical, psychiatric, or legal advice.

This coaching is for education, support, structure, and accountability.
It is not a replacement for detox, medical supervision, or licensed mental health care.

If you are in crisis or believe you may harm yourself or someone else, please contact local emergency services or a qualified professional immediately.